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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-22 03:56 pm (UTC)
Can you be addicted to work? With physical symptoms? Is this all in my head?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 06:53 pm (UTC)
I think it's a mental addiction..
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 01:23 am (UTC)
It's a mental condition, but it can present physical withdraw symptoms from those suffering it. The mind is a powerful thing, controlling everything in the human body.

If you're worried that you might be addicted to work, or a "work-aholic," seek professional help. They will be able to work with you in controlling yourself and settling down so you don't obsess over it.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-22 04:33 pm (UTC)
Will I really make it to Friday? I have so much homework and so much to do. I think I might die before then. My planner is a mess of scribbles and reminders!
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 06:54 pm (UTC)
Yes yes yes you will. And you will feel great when it's all done.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 11:49 pm (UTC)
I'm in the middle of a master's program and I feel homework is eating my life away. Try to breaking down your schedule week by week and not huge chunks.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-22 05:43 pm (UTC)
Would you ever not go to a friend's house to watch a movie because they only have a 13" tv (ie, making them go to your place every time you want to watch something together)?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-22 05:51 pm (UTC)
I don't know about you, but I go to my friends houses to hang out with them. Not their tv's. Suck it up and start going there and stop making them do all the work.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 01:37 am (UTC)
This is the OP.

Agreed. A friend decided he didn't want to come over to my place because of my tv. He called up asking if I wanted to go over to his place for a movie. I told him I had to do some stuff here, but he could come over to my apartment. He then started asking me how I can even watch anything on my tv and suggested getting a bigger one (possibly his old one). After that, he said he might come by, and we could get a beer and come back here. A few minutes later, he called back saying he was going to a bar by his place with another friend, but I was invited to go along.

That got me mad, but I wanted to get opinions as to how mad I should be- or if I was just overreacting. Granted, I never talked to him about how it got me mad... it just started making me think he's probably not that great of a friend.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 02:50 am (UTC)
I'm sorry, when I read that I assumed it was you who didn't want to do it, so it was directed at you. Either way, I still think it's a pretty shitty thing to do. You should want to spend time with a friend no matter what they have.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 03:04 pm (UTC)
Maybe he feels more comfortable at his place and doesn't know how to say it? Or if this is really about the tv, yeah he doesn't sound like someone i'd want to be friends with!
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-22 07:20 pm (UTC)
one of my happiest memories is watching Batman Begins on my best friend's tiny, old, crappy tv, and mocking the hell out of it. It's not the technology, it's the people.

I guess that's my long way of saying no.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 01:49 am (UTC)
Is it morally wrong to flirt with you? I don't even know how to do it properly, but the fact that I don't know what I want to get out of the flirting leads me to think that it's a very bad idea.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 02:58 am (UTC)
The only way to learn to flirt is to actually try it. I don't think it matters if you know what you want to get out of it- the fact that you want to try it at least suggests you have an interest in this person. You can figure out your relationship as it develops- and if you're happy with it (whatever the relationship is), that's all that matters. Besides, who says any of us really know what we want?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 03:58 am (UTC)
Why do people find virginity disgusting? It's not something I flaunt or hide because it's no big deal to me, but I'm very surprised how strongly some react! The worst part is having people treat you like you're immature, so now I'm less likely to share when asked. Hey just because my legs aren't open doesn't mean my mind is closed as well! (23, female, not religious)
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 03:01 pm (UTC)
Disgusting? That makes no sense at all! Anyone who wants to make you feel bad for whatever your reasoning for having your virginity still is the immature one. Maybe they're just jealous. =)
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 01:26 am (UTC)
I, personally, don't find virginity disgusting, nor do I find virgins disgusting. I feel that when they talk about sex they have no idea what they are talking about (as books and articles can only teach you so much, and most of what's written is bullshit).

However, why is your sexuality anyone's business in the first place? Why do you feel the need to share that you're a virgin with anyone unless they are a romantic interest? If you continually talk about it, I can see how people would find that disgusting, as I don't care to hear about anyone's sex life, or lack their of. It's none of my business, and mine isn't yours.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 03:21 am (UTC)
(OP) I don't share unless flat out asked, but as you pointed out I am pretty clueless which often leads to awkward situations. The question usually pops up when someone notices I'm the only one not laughing at the jokes or when I ask stupid questions. I tend to meet a lot of new faces and hang around some very strange crowds, lol. On a side note the part about being treated immaturely mostly relates to my friends.

Luckily it isn't an issue that crops up very often, but the reason this question came to mind is because I went to this party recently and was ranting about how ALL of my female friends were now pregnant or have kids, so someone jokingly asked, "Does this mean you're next?" then my drunken friend shouted out, "Yeah if she ever has sex first!" *facepalm*
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 04:53 am (UTC)
Why do I even bother anymore?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 05:01 am (UTC)
What kind of messed up world do we live in, where dead characters can return on Grey's Anatomy, but not in Supernatural?

SERIOUSLY! I want to see a John Winchester ghost before the end of the season, or Mr. Kripke is going to be getting a very angry letter.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 02:56 pm (UTC)
I wanted to back out right after I said yes when he asked me to be his girlfriend. Seconds afterward I was set with confusion of what I had just done. I don't know what to do!

Has anyone else felt something like this?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 08:32 pm (UTC)
Yes. So I freaked out, told him I couldn't be his girlfriend a few days later. Then we danced around each other and a relationship for two years.

Try it out. Seeing where it goes is worth being freaked out a little. And it's not leading him on because you do have some feelings for him, right?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-25 08:24 pm (UTC)
It IS leading him on if she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him but lets him believe she does. Even if she does have feeling for him, she needs to be honest about where she wants to go with those feelings.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-03-01 09:10 pm (UTC)
It is not leading him on if she doesn't know if she wants to be in a relationship with him, but she should tell him her feelings about this relationship.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 05:14 pm (UTC)
Why don't you want me to be friends with her? What is it that you are so afraid of?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 06:58 pm (UTC)
I really do feel terrible; will I lose my job if I ask to go home sick?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 01:27 am (UTC)
If you are feeling legitimately ill and you don't make it a habit, you shouldn't be fired for going home sick. Your boss will be able to tell if you're faking if you're a bad liar, but if you're really sick there's nothing to hide.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 11:11 pm (UTC)
Am I the only one who feels like someone ripped out her internal organs any time she makes even the slightest mistake?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-23 11:55 pm (UTC)
I used to feel like this all the time and sometimes mistakes still haunt me. It has started to fade with age and me controlling that feeling.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 08:59 am (UTC)
do i have a right to be annoyed if my friend calls me to chat, and she starts doing stuff on the computer like typing away? and there's silence or vague responses because i don't have her full attention? i always get off the phone when this happens. i say stuff like 'well i'll talk to you later' and she doesn't want to get off the phone, but we're not TALKING!
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 01:37 pm (UTC)
my sister does this to me. it annoys and hurts me. i am giving her my full attention, but i don't warrant the same?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 10:53 pm (UTC)
yes, exactly. my friend's annoyed at me now and i started to feel bad but i shouldn't.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-24 01:40 pm (UTC)
Say you haven't gone to your classes in the past week or so because you needed a giant mental health break or you would fall apart.

How do you go back?
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-25 12:38 am (UTC)
Just go back. Start fresh.
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-28 12:07 am (UTC)
Why the hell can't I just forget you and move on? You're clearly making this more difficult than it needs to be and it's driving me crazy!
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-02-28 06:40 pm (UTC)
Because they've gotten under your skin in the way that only difficult people can get under it. I've got someone like this in my life too, and so far I haven't been able to get them out of my head or my heart (and it's been a loooooong time). A lot of people say things like "if you really wanted to forget them, you would", "give it time", or "you don't need someone else to make you happy". There's truth to all of that, but I don't think any of it's the whole story when it comes to some people. So I use the way I feel to fuel my writing. (=
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From: (Anonymous)
2009-03-01 03:27 am (UTC)
It hasn't been that long for me but I feel stronger for this person than I have for anyone else in my past. It mostly drives me crazy because of the effect he has on my mood. One missed call from him and I'm brooding six ways to sunday and then one smile and the world is sunshine and rainbows again. It's ridiculous. Haha, and I have been writing and painting alot more lately thanks to him!
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